TRUE LOVER

“I’ve realized that one of my main goals is to find a worthwhile and long term relationship. 

I noticed you have entries on how to keep a relationship and on how to end a relationship so 
would you consider writing an entry on what you perceive to be the best way to find a worthwhile relationship.
How to avoid making the same mistakes,overcoming fears,keeping up motivation after failure etc.”
-Gary (Dublin, Ireland)
Regardless of our culture, our level of education or economic status, 
at the depth of all of us are the same desires- to love, to be loved, and to be happy.
Of course we could add other desires to this list, 
like money and wealth and fancy things, 
but when you drill into these things,
the reason for wanting them is so that we can appear more desirable, and will hopefully be loved and accepted.
If love is something so fundamentally important to us, 
then why is it that we have so many issues and misunderstandings in the area of finding it? 
I think the answer is simple, 
that most of us have never been educated in this fundamental area of our development. Chances are,
you didn’t grow up with parents
who were relationship experts, and we certainly didn’t study relationships in our high school curriculums. 
For most of us, 
it’s been an adventure in trial and error and learning through pain and heart-break.
But is there an easier way?
In light of Valentine’s Day approaching this week,
I am going to touch on one of my favorite topics of all time: finding love.